You may have a lot of ideas about how to celebrate Father’s Day, but it isn’t about you.
Before the kids came along, it was just you and him. He got used to being cared for and doted over. He was your focus. Then kids came.
Dads aren’t just another kid. DADS ARE NOT A STEP-CHILD!
As much as moms joke about this, they’re not. Their roles may be very different than those of a mother, but they still want to feel like the top priority. Father’s Day is a perfect opportunity to let him know that despite the circumstances he’s still number one in your eyes.
What does he what to see, hear, and feel that day?
Pressure free respect and appreciation.
Try to avoid the temptation to ask him more than once about how he wants to celebrate his day.
Ask him 1 time, and then patiently wait the hours or days until he answers. Perhaps he doesn't answer in words, but actions. If he takes his coffee to his man cave that Sunday morning, then that is what he wants to do. Try to RESPECT his desire for PEACE and QUIET.
Society has this tendency to downplay the role of a Father. Dads are the supportive backbone, his role is pivotal and deserves appreciation. Men tend to hide their stress and worry, and fatherhood is essentially a lot of stress and worry. This is a great time to reflect and laugh off the seriousness of fatherhood, and allow him to enjoy and celebrate all the great things he’s done.
Fathers aren’t competition to Mothers. They’re partners, co-captains, trusted allies. Parenting is a journey without a road map, and having a good travel buddy is a bonus. Show him respect and shower him with appreciation.
Interesting tidbit: Father’s day was created over 100 years ago in 1910. But it didn’t become a national holiday until 1972. part of the delay was due to male resistance to the idea. Men scoffed at the attempt to domesticate manliness with flowers and gift-giving, and mocked it as a commercial gimmick to sell products; often paid for by the father himself.
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